Make Time To Heal

Woman meditating in the Lotus pose (Padamasana).

How do you identify the changes needed to heal from cancer? Where do you go to get rid of the extra emotional weight cancer treatment piles on your spirit? What do you do to take care of yourself? Start by asking yourself,

“What do I need to be WHOLE?”

When you were first diagnosed with cancer, it was a fearful, sad, and surreal experience. Maybe it seemed as if your life slipped into an alternate universe where time warped, and nothing made sense. Sound familiar?

Your mind struggles to process the reality of your cancer—even now that you have finished urgent clinical treatment. Night and day you worry or have your thoughts float aimlessly into autopilot. You are not alone. Many women are challenged in this way.

By asking yourself, “What do I need to be WHOLE?” you are giving your mind a new option to consider. One that can help lay the foundation for change. Notice the question says, what do you NEED! It doesn’t say, “What do you think you can get?” You are entitled to have what you need to heal and thrive!

It’s okay if you don’t have an answer right away. Be patient with yourself! Opening the space to ponder about what you need will help bring clarity about your new priorities and what is most meaningful to you. Well worth your attention. Here are five tips to get you started:

  1. Be kind to yourself. Get adequate rest, breathe deep cleansing breaths, stretch your body, and even get a massage from time-to-time. These activities expand your body’s capacity to shake off stress.
  2. Give yourself permission to change. Just because you have done something a particular way for a long time, does not mean doing things the same ways will continue to work. Change can be healthy–essential, evolutionary, and enlivening. Follow where your heart takes you and actively engage the journey.
  3. Let go of whatever stops you from feeling secure. Old ideas about yourself, unhealthy relationships, or anything else that is weighing heavy on your mind.
  4. Trust your instincts. You’ve got powerful personal “sonar” that will guide you through the healing process. Trust it. When it beeps, pay attention and change direction if need be. Trusting your instincts can steer you away from obstacles and toward new opportunities.
  5. Laugh! Many studies show that laughter promotes healing. Look for opportunities to get your laugh on by watching comedy programs and movies, reading funny books, or even reaching out to your oh-so-funny women friends for a rousing lady’s night.